[DG Note: Today’s post is a guest post by reader/commenter Tigersault (formerly A Visitor)]
Men today, regarding their daughters, act and think like women. Sure, being foolish is a surefire way to end up with your genetic lineage being annihilated but I’m not talking about that here. What I’m talking about is how men when confronted with the painfully obvious fact that most women (I’m talking a majority well over 50%) do not and, more importantly, SHOULD NOT attend a university/college, they immediately start thinking and acting like women regarding a range of possible scenarios that more often than not DO NOT COME TO PASS.
This post will examine three points: 1) the obvious dangers of sending your daughter(s) to a university/college 2) the various scenarios that men come up with to rationalize sending their daughters to university/college and 3) what happens in the rare scenario that something does happen. All three of these will be backed up with personal anecdotes when possible. Yes, exceptions do not break the rule but bear with me here.
Before delving into these three points, an aside about myself: I come from a very well-to-do upper class background and, in the current occupation I am in, I deal with death on a semi-regular basis as part of my job duties. Beyond that, I am prepared to say nothing more due to wishing to keep my anonymity.
First, the obvious dangers of sending your daughter(s) to university/college. They bear repeating. One of two things (or possibly both) will happen: 1) your daughter will come out a flaming liberal and/or feminist and/or 2) she will lose her virginity, potentially becoming an alpha widow, and/or have so many sexual partners that she will become unmarriable except to the most beta schlub.
In my family’s case, one sibling came out a raging feminist. Even in a certain situation where she disliked someone who was a woman, when hearing that a certain requirement had to be met of all individuals, regardless of gender, she was quick to ascertain the woman was not being asked to fulfill said requirement only due to gender. Furthermore, she buys the campus rape myth. My girlfriend asked the following question, “Was [your sibling] like this before she went to college?” My response, “Not that I recall.” My sibling’s feminism is complimented by acceptance of homosexuality and transsexualism. In another sibling’s case, she wears the pants in the relationship with my in-law. She may not admit it but she’d be happier submitting to his headship. And yes, this sibling views anti-homosexuality as being bigoted.
Finally, on the obvious dangers point, although a woman’s promiscuity may precede her time at a college/university, being in that environment certainly will not do wonders in terms of maintaining her chastity. Whether it be the greeters of a southern university or two (Google it if you don’t believe me) being recruited as de-facto geishas to entice high school senior football players to attend their university for obvious benefits or just your run of the mill attractive girl, the environment in college/universities is generally not conducive to maintaining one of her most prized assets, namely being chaste. In one instance, I was at a tailgate with an individual that I had met the previous night. We were talking when suddenly he recognized one of my classmates and decided to leave. The reason? He had had a one night stand with her.
Second, when you bring up to men that their daughters would be better off not going to college/university a stream of woman rationalizations comes forth.
1) “What if she can’t find a man to marry?”
2) “What if her husband turns out to be horrid and she has to separate due to physical security concerns?”
3) “What if she needs to hold herself over with work for a bit before she marries?”
4) “What if her husband dies and she has to go back to work?”
The above questions can be perceived as legitimate concerns but upon further examination are debunked easily. However, as one can see, this line of questioning can go on indefinitely. Before moving on to point 3 of the post (the rare case the worst comes to pass), ask yourself this question: is it really, assuming she’ll be attending a four year in state public university, worth shelling out roughly $80,000 for a piece of paper that in many cases is worth as much as a high school degree due to market over saturation or, in the case of worthless majors like ethnic studies or women’s studies, worth less than a normal degree AND a huge red flag to future employers? Keep in mind too that beyond all the time and effort they spend on said degree, they will have a lot of down time around alcohol and late teens/early 20’s men with the same amount of raging hormones they do.
So, what if the worst comes to pass? We’ll hit this in the order of the questions numbered in the paragraph on point two of this post. 1) What if she can’t find a man to marry? Well, it may certainly not be too late. However, ask yourself this? What can a man bring to the table nowadays if women are told, from an extremely young age, that they can be anything they want AND do anything as well, if not better, than a man? If she can’t find a man, don’t despair. If she’s young enough, keep an eye on quality boys that she interacts with regularly. If she is post college, put her in situations where she is around eligible men, especially parish life. Make a point to strike up conversations with parents of men who are looking to marry. Make sure she dresses modestly and that she acts like a woman. These two things alone separate from the vast majority of bottom feeders in women’s bodies nowadays. If she cannot in fact, despite your and her best efforts, find a man to marry, through no fault of her own, see to it that she’s well taken care of: have her work for a family member or friend in a secure line of work. Support her as needed, emotionally, spiritually, monetarily.
2) “What if her husband turns out to be horrid and she has to separate due to physical security concerns?” Those vows she took in the Sacrament of Marriage are binding until death due them part. So, what now? Do what is needed to make sure he won’t harm her: i.e. restraining order, firearms training for her, followed by making sure she is in a safe place to live, whether it be your house, a trusted family friend, etc.
3) “What if she needs to hold herself over with work for a bit before she marries?” Pretty much see point 1. Introduce her to God-fearing righteous men, looking to marry. Let her live in your house until marriage. So far it’s worked out fine for my parents. From personal experience, one sibling is married and the other is in the house until she marries. It is working fine thus far.
4) “What if her husband dies and she has to go back to work?”
I have two experiences with this. First, a friend of mine who is advanced in years had a daughter he supports due to her husband no longer being in the picture. My friend is not very well off and yet manages to do it. I cannot recall for certain if her husband is deceased but I believe he is.
Second, in my course of work, someone I knew professionally was murdered along with several others in a random killing several months back. Besides my professional obligations in aiding his widow, others in the state, as well as her parish have banded together to help the family of the deceased. This is not a one time thing either, regarding the parishioners. This is a continued process of supporting her as she works to support her family.
As horrible and tragic as the situation is for her and her children, we are committed to continuing to help her. Everyone, regardless of how desolate their situation seems, knows at least one other person that would help them in their time of need. And yes, to my knowledge, his widow did not attend college. I say that due to knowing them enough professionally that it is obvious and will say nothing further on it.
To conclude, men today, especially regarding their daughters, will delve into irrational thinking and acting like women when it comes to the subject of their daughters not attending college/university. Is it worth them a) turning their backs on what you’ve taught them re: the Faith, b) becoming flaming liberals c) losing their virginity/being so unchaste as to be unmarriable due to N count, STD(s), being an alpha widow and/or d) spending a great deal of your money on an investment that most likely will not be worth it? There are several “what ifs” addressed above with personal experiences where appropriate and likely scenarios when no personal anecdote was available.
In closing, as my girlfriend and I have discussed before if we get married, we are looking to marry off our daughters as soon as possible. Raising chaste, Catholic, feminine princesses to be queens, imbued with truly traditional values, who have God first, their husbands and families close behind, rather than a career, is worth dividends in the end, as well as a way to continue our way of life.