Despite the Evil One’s best efforts, there are still young Christian men and women in the US who aim to avoid the sinfulness of the modern American Sexual Market-Place. Rather than seeking immediate sexual gratification, this faithful remnant wishes to marry and raise a family in accordance with God’s commandments. Unfortunately, there are a number of hurdles which have been placed in their way to prevent them from living a righteous life:
1) The Church is no longer a supportive institution. The manosphere is full of horror stories of American churches doing their best to keep young people from marrying. Whether it comes from ideas like “Kiss Dating Goodbye” or actively decrying the idea of marrying young, the environment in many American churches is toxic. Many of them are feminized to one degree or another, and discourage Alpha attributes in men.
2) They have no convenient means of locating one another. Most churches are social clubs now, and some of them are little better than “Sunday Morning Nightclubs. ” Two generations ago you could be fairly certain that you could find Mr. Right or Ms. Right at church; that surety is as extinct as the dodo.
3) The general culture discourages young marriage. Women especially are encouraged to “find themselves”, and to only marry after they have acquired what Dalrock has termed “feminist merit badges.”
This raises the question: what are young Christians looking to get married to do? How are they supposed to react to this kind of situation, an environment which is more hostile to true Christians then any since the early followers of The Way were forced into the catacombs by Rome?
I have a few ideas, and intend for this to be the beginning of a series of posts concerning different strategies that young Christians looking to marry can take in order to help them find a Christian wife or husband. Hopefully I will be able to convince a few other bloggers to add their own thoughts and ideas on the subject. My goal is for this to be a community project for the manosphere, as many bloggers are in a position similar to myself or will be facing this problem in a few years as their children get older.
What do I mean by The One?
I should be clear that when I say “The One”, I don’t mean a “soul-mate.” In fact my use of the phrase is intentionally ironic. The concept of a soul-mate is un-Christian, and has no place in Christian discourse. In fact, the search for a “soul-mate” is a core component of the sexual immorality prevalent in the Church today via the practice of serial monogamy. As a Christian, you want to avoid “oneitis.” Instead of looking for some mythical person out there who God made just for you, you want to look for your “One and Only.” A person who is a good match or fit for you, someone whom you can work with and spend the rest of your life with.
Future Posts in this series:
Update: I am working on the next post in this series, a sort of “episode 0” which will briefly cover some basic differences in how Christian men and women will need to approach this problem.