Tuesday Tips- #5 Reject It Unless You Would Have Created It Yourself

Reader MK provides us today with another guest post. As always, these opinions don’t necessarily represent my own.


This tip seems a tad antisocial, but it’s precisely the opposite.

I recommend critically examining every cultural event then ask: “Would I have created this myself? If the answer is no, just walk away. Life is too short.

In this light, here’s some events I (and now my family) gratefully sidestep:


Valentine’s Day (modern version)

TV parties (e.g. sports, movies)


Birthday/Christmas cards

Secular holidays

Secular anniversaries

Expensive, garish weddings

Expensive recreation

Non-active, non-local vacations (rare exceptions)

I feel deep discomfort watching men chase the modern rat race. They rush to the florist, obligated to support a fem-centric commercial “holiday”. Or even worse, an unsung anniversary. How many men would create these customs on their own? Very few, methinks. Yet they participate like a chained bear at the circus. Tragic, to my mind.

What’s even more sad? Everyone therefore lacks the time to celebrate life. Most who have families work endless hours. For what? To buy throwaway things. To fund an irresponsible wife. Maybe to impress their fellow bipeds? Or so they can gallop through Disneyland or Paris only to return more stressed out than before? Meanwhile real life (that is meaningful, healthy, exciting life, to be lived deliberately) passes them by. Until the divorce. Or heart attack.

Personally, I like the term “converged” to describe modern holidays (which ironically used to be called “Holy Days”). Indeed, all of the events and activities on the above list are fully converged into the commercial culture. The marketable expectations are there and they can’t easily be extracted.

I’ve long held this “sidestep” viewpoint, even as a kid. I skipped prom without regret. That just whetted my appetite: I haven’t bought flowers or candy for a woman on her birthday or on V-day ever. Not even Skittles. It certainly hasn’t hurt my romantic life, either.

I don’t celebrate birthdays at all, and have no regrets. Heck, with a family of my size birthdays would a monthly event anyway. I’ll pass. What a modern, self-absorbed invention birthday celebrations are, anyway; egomania, greed, and gluttony are now being taught to kids from the earliest age. Sad.

So what do I do instead with my saved time? Religious feast days, for one. The RC liturgical cycle (e.g. Easter, Lent, Christmas, etc.) is how celebrations are done for real. This is the way my ancestors did it, and they definitely had perfected things. The dozen or so Holy Days are carefully timed to the seasons, balancing both fasting and feasting. This way, one can stay in shape, remain healthy, and yet celebrate with abandon. And it’s plenty sufficient; about a dozen celebrations a year is enough! We do massive feasts, with rich, real, expensive, wholesome foods: delicious fruits, nuts, fish, muffins, pies, cakes, cream, meats, and cheese (we skip processed sugar, junk, and commercial crap).

Look: there is simply not enough time to engage in the tomfoolery of the American holiday rat race yet still live an active, happy life. It can’t be done. So I advise men to Just Say No and cheerfully reject anything they wouldn’t have created on their own. This culture has turned men into a slaves supporting the fem-centric beast; why play this dirty game? Do only what makes sense for you and yours.

And start living!


Filed under Christianity, Civilization, Red Pill

5 responses to “Tuesday Tips- #5 Reject It Unless You Would Have Created It Yourself

  1. Griffin

    This is a very easy time management technique. Thanks for sharing it. Even though each family is going to have its own list, I think that there is something to be said for doing somethings that are higher priorities to others. The lord/patriarch/ chief needs to consider the good of the commonwealth of which he is head. Consider does not mean that any given activity must be done.
    Again, this is a quick and easy sorting process, thanks.

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  3. An alternative approach is to view holidays as scheduled opportunities. I can rarely do anything with friends & family outside of gov’t-designated holidays because that’s when they’re scheduled, despite themselves, to go play. Ignore the holiday’s actual purpose and enjoy that mandatory three-day weekend!

    The root problem of people not enjoying life has nothing to do with secular intrusion or money concerns. Most people don’t believe life should be fun. They were taught to not have fun. Raise young men on nothing but duties and demands, and many will end up ashamed to buck the harness for just one week per year. The only reason MGTOW is an attractive philosophy is because it teaches men should be free to do as they wish. It certainly isn’t the “give up on sex and women” bit.

  4. LOL @ the eschewing “expensive, garish weddings.” In historical Christendom, traditional weddings were considered “expensive” and “garish.” The celebrations lasted days, had hundreds of people, and involved a lot of money on both sides. Your advice would also require me to eschew my own cultural heritage, with all its faults is more traditional than the modern culture. You can guess what people in my position would pick.

    As for rejecting secular holidays? Sure, if someone doesn’t feel like celebrating Thanksgiving (many people don’t, in fact), it’s one thing, but your advice to eschew the national or local (secular) culture is akin to what a lot of the Muslim enclaves do, which plague Europe.

  5. MK

    Griffin, Thanks for sharing it.

    Thank you. I felt uncomfortable sharing it because it sounds so angry and negative. I only hoped to save guys my two decades of agonizing. So I really appreciate your feedback.

    Gun, MGTOW is attractive because it teaches men should be free

    I never thought it that way. I’ve always had a weird affinity for MGTOW even though I’m nothing like that. You hit it exactly why I do. Many men today seem like masochists and it drives me crazy. They should demand more.

    Maea, historical Christendom, traditional weddings were considered “expensive” and “garish.” The celebrations lasted days, had hundreds of people

    It’s more of a class and culture thing, not a “Christendom” thing, which is very multicultural on this. A better argument for your position would be Jewish weddings (wedding of Cana, for example). Christians did weddings in various ways, and still do. For a look at the “biggest” of weddings of the wealthiest in old England would be in Jane Austen’s Pride & Predj (BBC version), and that seemed very tame to me, compared the wealthy today.

    I think what puts me off so much today is the status-seeking and showbiz of the Sacrament. But to each his own, more power to them…just don’t expect us to go! Likewise, I don’t expect anyone to come to my piddling little drinking fest of a wedding :-). It’s the world we live in today, division and splintering into subcultures. I’m all for it. Rule of 150 and all that.

    Also, please don’t take my above lifestyle as a claim to “the only way”. I’m merely offering men a different counter-cultural way that works well. At least for me: I haven’t got open rebellion in my house. Yet :-). YMMV.

    Thanks for the comments all.

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