The Knowledge Base Spreads

A long time reader and commenter has clued me in to a series on the Orthodox Blog “Russian Faith” concerning attracting a spouse. The first post in the series is “How to Attract a Christian Spouse-Marriage Advice from a Christian Dad.” The author cites my LAMPS/PSALM model favorably at one point, although he adds on a final S to include Spirituality. I think I will respond to that point sometime later, as it is good to understand what my model is, and what my model isn’t.

He then wrote a follow up post, title Attractiveness: Beauty is Not Just On the Inside. It is very Un-PC in all of the right ways. A snippet from it:

A woman’s physical attractiveness is the most immediate and pressing point of interest to most men. Morally and spiritually, this can be quite dangerous — we all know very attractive women whose spiritual lives are a mess — but attractiveness itself is central to attraction by most men (whether godly or not).

A young lady may be a devout Christian, but if she is not physically attractive, the vast majority of men will pass her over.

This is absolutely true, and something which unfortunately is not taught enough in Christian circles (of any faith tradition). The reverse is of course true for men as well, and is one of the reasons why we have the Christian side of the ‘sphere.

One thing I found very striking about the second post is the photos. They showcase beautiful women who are very feminine and modest in appearance. Not the vulgar “sexiness” the world loves to push out.

I will be curious to see where the author takes the remaining posts. At the same time, I am already pleased to see this kind of article happen. Especially because it showcases my LAMPS/PSALM model and the understanding that goes with it. Hopefully more Christian outlets will take advantage of those kinds of resources in the future.

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2 responses to “The Knowledge Base Spreads

  1. fuzziewuzziebear

    In all fairness, who’s model could he use other than your’s? I have not seen anyone else construct a theory of what women are attracted to as useful as your’s since you introduced it on SSM’s blog. The only flaw I can see in it is the tendency of women to dial up hypergamy to eleven which it does not address.

  2. stmichaelkozaki

    Comments:
    1. Youth is necessary, but he’s not precise enough. If a woman is “too” young regarding maturity, you may not have enough “years” of data by which to judge her unless she is unusually mature or well raised.
    2. Youth is very subject to lifestyle. I know girls who are 25 and have better skin, weight, hair, etc. than 18 yo girls who have been living an unhealthy life. Again, it’s a grey area.
    3. One thing forgotten here is “health”. Girls who eat right (meat and veg) forgoing the grains & sugar, plus lift weights (i.e. squat and deadlift especially) build a firm, healthy frame with great skin, hair, and teeth. This is a forgotten piece. It’s really 90% diet.
    4. Attitude: women with a good, pleasant demeanor simply age better. You can see it on their face, their mouth, their eyes. Again, women who are 30 can look as young or younger than a 25 yo if they are happy and generous…and the opposite is equally true.

    Sorry to nitpick, just stuff I’ve observed over the years. I definitely liked the post and welcome back.

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