An Inquiry About Love

I am hoping that my Christian, and Catholic/Orthodox in particular, readers will do me a favor here. I have something I want to try and nail down, and could use help.

You see, something which is not uncommon to run across is a variation of the following notion:

Women love more than men.

Sometimes it is as simple as that. Other times you will see it as “wives love more than husbands.” Or “mothers love more than fathers.” And so on.

The point being, it is all an example of the above idea that women are more loving. Nevermind what particular notion/definition of love is intended.

What I am asking from my everyone is if there is any scripture which justifies this notion. Anything at all, please mention in the comments. And for my Catholic/Orthodox readers, are there any writings of the Church Fathers or saints which say something along these lines?

I am quite curious about this. My gut tells me this is a modern notion, something which has appeared since “Chivalry” in the west was perverted. [If I was Rollo I might say something along the lines of “feminine primacy socialization” or the like] However, I might be wrong. So I’m asking for your help here. Anything you find, just leave in the comments.


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11 responses to “An Inquiry About Love

  1. There are no Scripture verses that speak to this as far as I am aware of, although I haven’t read a few swaths of the OT in a few years.

    I’ve noted my preference for the term “charity” as love tends to be a very.. misunderstood word.

    Are men more charitable than women? Are women more charitable than men? In other words: are men or women better at giving selflessly, especially when it isn’t deserved.

    Romans 5:8 God shows His love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

    My educated guess is that neither sex is that great at it. Human nature is selfish. That’s why agape/charity is a trait of God, and we all as Christians are to aspire to it.

  2. It’s not so recent as that. Aristotle said it in the Nicomachean Ethics (viii, 12), that “parental affection is stronger in the mother,” because of (as my annotation summarizes it) greater certainty of parentage, closer affinity, and earlier commencement of affection.

  3. We’re called to love women as Christ loved the Church. Which of the two is more loving in that relationship?

    Simply put, wives are more affectionate and emotional. Yet (in a good, traditional marriage) men are the ones making significant sacrifices of body, mind, and soul in ways that a wife isn’t called to. In which case the husband is due those signs of her resect and affection as a simple matter of justice in even a natural marriage.

  4. fuzziewuzziebear

    You are going back a ways. Eleanor of Aquitane held her “Court of Love” in the 12th century. Middle English was in use, the language of Chaucer. You may have to tap Roman sources and they had a very different outlook.

  5. I think in Augustine’s Confessions he clearly regards his *own* mother to have loved him more/better than his own father. Does he extend this as a general trait to all women? I cannot recall precisely but I think he might have implied that. Something along the lines of “the great love all mothers have for their sons.”

  6. MK

    I personally don’t use the bible like this. But the issue itself seems a yawn. Men & women love differently: men as doctors (unemotional love) and women emotionally. Mom/wife for emotional comfort and family unity & dad/husband to train, protect, provide. Both required for top performance.

    Today the State has institutionalized a lot of male love (esp the protect/provide via taxation). Side effect: shortage of quality men in general. Everything is a cycle.

  7. Eph 5:25 commands men to love their wives. Titus 2:4 says women need to be taught to love their husbands and children. And the commandment to love your neighbor as yourself was spoken to both sexes (among Jesus’ disciples). There’s no indication that either sex has an easier time of it.

  8. Eph 5:22 commands wives to respect or submit to their husbands. Men need respect, while women need love. Emerson Eggerichs “Love & Respect” curriculum and material is noteworthy. Of course, these are generalizations to which exceptions certainly exist (such as the “eunuchs born that way” whom Jesus references in Matt 19.

    But Machiavelli, a man’s man, likewise concluded that it is better to be feared than loved if one cannot be both. Don’t let Aretha Franklin’s singing confuse you about R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

    If in nuclear families, extended families, villages and tribes the role of men is to protect and provide protein while women are to care for the group and to distribute the protein, then men will need a certain group dynamic to bring down game or defend (sit side by side drinking beer and watching sports). And women will need a different group dynamic to distribute today and again tomorrow (sit across from each other while having coffee or tea).

    Respect is required for team wins. Love is required for the team to stay together.

  9. DJ

    Nonsense it’s confusing a certain type of considerations and personal investment with being more loving. Women are often more publicly affectionate and more generally considerate of individuals, that doesn’t make them more loving. Men & women love differently they are both capable of the same level of investment and self sacrifice but it looks different.

  10. dvdivx

    Depends on age and experience. When I was a young man I was completely in love with a woman my family and friends did not like. Learned the hard way why. Later after a few relationships I married had kids and the marriage completely died. I can say now I don’t love my wife even a little. Beyond her ability to take care of the kids she serves no function. I love my kids but how I love them is different. Love is a broad term in the English language. In Greek ,the language of the New Testament, it has different words to separate out the types of love.

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