In the past couple of days I have been carrying on a discussion with a reader of mine about my “The Way We Met” series. The principal topic has been the question of “settling.” It was prompted by his observation that a number of the more traditional minded Catholic unmarried Catholic women are in their late 20s and early 30s. [The how and why of that is not the topic of this post.] From his perspective they at least seemed outwardly chaste.
What he was curious about was the effect of their settling versus a woman with a long and/or troubled “history.” Here are some questions he asked:
- As a man, should you care if a woman is settling for you, assuming that she has been chaste?
- Does it even make a difference that she has been chaste?
- How do you find out or realize this is happening?
- What should you consider if you find yourself in this scenario?
Those are his questions, slightly rephrased. And good questions they are, too. I invite my readers to try and answer them to the best of their abilities. At the same time, I would like to keep the conversation focused on this particular topic.
[Note: In a couple of days I intend to create a post in reverse of this- advice for women about men settling. Mayhaps it might be useful for some of my female readers, or women they know.]