Masculine Monday # 13

*Men Only*

I suspect that I were to try and create a list of different traits that men “need,” that it would generate a lot of debate. Some would say I am missing traits, while others would argue that I am including some unnecessarily. There is one trait, however, that I would wager very few would disagree with if it were included in such a list.

That trait? A capacity for focused, disciplined and effective violence.

Note that I say a capacity for violence, not a propensity for violence. Those are two very different things.

There is a time and place for all things, including violence and refraining from violence. But I would argue that a man who is incapable of exercising violence when needed isn’t much of a man at all.

Protecting those you love and care for is part and parcel of being a man. If you are a husband and/or father, then you are ultimately the last line of defense when it comes to protecting your family.

Men and women alike will evaluate you on your perceived ability to defend not only yourself, but others. In fact women are apt to find violent, or at least violence-capable men, to be sexually arousing.

So where am I going with this? The answer is that a man needs to know how to use violence effectively. That means he needs to study martial arts, or to shoot firearms (bows and crossbows are neat and useful, but too specialized). Don’t know how? Start taking lessons? Already know how to do these things? Then keep up with your training.

Blessed be the Lord, my rock,
who trains my hands for war,
    and my fingers for battle

(Psalm 144:1)

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13 responses to “Masculine Monday # 13

  1. Pingback: Masculine Monday # 13 – Manosphere.org

  2. Yeah. This is one of those things that it’s tricky to talk about because the overreaction is so unbelievably stupid/evil/tryhard.

    I think the best approach to take is the one a lot of people adopt to food storage—don’t go crazy, but start. Got nothing? Go buy a baseball bat, and don’t worry about it for a few months.

    Funny story…I may have shot a very small hole in my friend’s roof the other day with his pellet gun. So, uh, do a better job of knowing what you’re doing than dropit.

  3. anonymous_ng

    It’s sad that this need even be mentioned. I once heard a young man from Mexico referred to as a good man because he was a hard worker, and didn’t beat his wife. In the lower-class hispanic sub-culture, that was what defined a good man. In the middle-class white culture, that’s expected to the point of being taken for granted.

  4. Anonymous Reader

    Agreed, and it is something a man should have a capacity for before he’s married, long before children. The confidence that comes with a controlled ability to do violence is comforting to those around a man.

    However, don’t expect agreement from many people, because a capacity for violence is not Nice, and Niceness is quite important in many, many churches. It is another manifestation of the feminization of church. The army of strawman that have been vanquished on this topic would probably circle the planet. I won’t bother for now with all that.

    Practically speaking, as Harry Callahan said, “A man’s got to know his limitations”. Those limitations include the legal situation wherever a man may be. Empty-hand techniques commonly called “martial arts” would be one place to start, tools are more specific.

    @seriouslypleasedropit, learn these rules for firearms and airguns too:

    1. All guns are always loaded.
    2. Never point a gun at anything you do not want to destroy.
    3. Do not touch the trigger until your sights are on the target and you are ready to shoot.
    4. Be sure of your target and what is behind it.

    There’s redundancy in these rules, they overlap. Your hole in the roof?
    At least it wasn’t a person. So go forward resolved not to do that again.
    Some find rule #1 overly strict. There’s an essay that Mark Twain once wrote on that topic, I’ll see if I can find it.

  5. MK

    anon, …Mexican is a good man because he was a hard worker and didn’t beat his wife…middle-class white, taken for granted.

    Yep, and yet Mexs have outbred middle-class whites big time. Hmmm. Strange, that. The problem with the modern West? The Men are too good, the Women too rotten. Men should look out for #1, only then #2.

    DG,…a man needs to know how to use violence effectively. That means he needs to study martial arts, or to shoot

    I’ve no issue getting physical & done lots of shooting, but don’t think them very relevant to masculine power today. Masculine power rests today with aggressive legal, verbal, social, and strategic skills. Most women are helpless here, yet most men remain clueless as well, trapped in the past.

    Another way to say it? if a man must resort to violence, even if he’s good at it, he probably screwed up and has likely already lost.

  6. Anonymous Reader

    MK
    Yep, and yet Mexs have outbred middle-class whites big time. Hmmm.

    Yeah? Sure about that? 1st gen immigrants tend to have more children, 2nd gen and later revert to the societal mean. Current birth rate in the US is down, way down. Not down as far as in Venezuela where women are getting themselves sterilzed, sure, but down. Meanwhile Mexico’s birth rate last time I checked was about 2.3 children per woman / lifetime. The Mexican nationals I work with confirm that 2 children is the norm in the cities. Facts are stubborn things, eh? Sorry to rain on the “Catholics are outbreeding the Prots” parade.

    And you probably don’t want to discuss some of the religiousness of Mexicans, such as Santa Muerte, either.

    DG,…a man needs to know how to use violence effectively. That means he needs to study martial arts, or to shoot

    MK
    Another way to say it? if a man must resort to violence, even if he’s good at it, he probably screwed up and has likely already lost.

    Oh, ok. That’s clear enough.

    So if you ever hear a window shattering in the middle of the night and your daughter screaming “DADDY! DADDY! A MAN! MAN IN THE WINDOW!” you’ll just hang out in your bedroom, maybe make a note to call the window company in the morning to fix the glass, ’cause if you go down the hall, you’ve “screwed up” and “likely already lost”.

    That’s got to be a real comfort to your family, dude.

  7. Tigersault

    I had a chance to do this a few weeks back when my girlfriend was in town. We were hanging out at my place and she asked me, “Did you hear that?” I replied, “What?” She said, “I think I just heard someone breaking in.” Without even thinking twice, I pushed her out of the way, got my pistol, and stepped into the room where the front door was. After ascertaining there was no threat, I went back to my girlfriend, told her as such, and put my pistol down. A few seconds went by and she said, “That was hot.”

    *mic drop*

  8. MK

    AR, Sorry to rain on the “Catholics are outbreeding the Prots” parade. And you don’t want to discuss the religiousness of Mexicans.

    Never mentioned religion, you did. But you contradict yourself in your religious obsessions…are your Mexs Catholic or not religious? Make up your mind. I discuss only facts, not religious obsessions.

    Facts: since 1970, US Hispanics grew 5 TIMES (10 to 55 million). By 2060 projected passing 50% of the shrinking whites. In 90 years! That’s an invasion. But don’t facts interfere with your religious obsession.

    …window shattering at night & your daughter screaming

    LOL Invade a home w/ >1,000# of males? Unwise. Hell, they can have the screeching females, but the fool who broke our window? Better bring help.

  9. Hadn’t read this post until tonight, and I don’t know what prompted it, but we’re on similar wavelengths.

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  11. This is a very sore subject for me. I was brought up with Quaker teachings, and went to a Quaker school. I was pretty much ostracized by everyone there because I disagreed with the “pacifism at all costs” attitude, and chose a law enforcement career. It still amazes me that they all loved they closet bullies, who pretended to be nice people in public, but who would torment other kids when out of sight of the teachers, but shunned me because I used violence to protect others.

    Hypocrites.

    Great article, and you are so spot on!

  12. Anonymous Reader

    MK says
    LOL Invade a home w/ >1,000# of males?

    You must have a really big house, and a very large extended family to have over 1,000 male humans in there. Whatever.

    Remember your own words from your previous comment?
    Another way to say it? if a man must resort to violence, even if he’s good at it, he probably screwed up and has likely already lost.

    According to you, none of those those thousand+ males should so much as lift a finger, therefore it does not matter how many there are. Your pacifism is your business, but it is the exact opposite of the point Donal Graeme is making.

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