Today I want to talk about pacing. What I have noticed about myself is that I, at first, had a tendency to drop too much truth on folks at once. This was a mistake. Some things to keep in mind about helping people unplug:
- The truth isn’t necessarily easy to understand- some concepts are rather complicated.
- The truth isn’t necessarily easy to accept- getting someone to reevaluate their whole world-view is easier said than done.
- There is a lot to process, and the more you throw at someone, the harder it is to process.
All of this leads to the simple conclusion that you should take the slow and steady approach when helping someone. Resist the urge to give them everything at once. Instead of bombarding them (which rarely works), pick one or two areas to focus on. Then keep at them, introducing them to more and more concepts over time. Eventually they will really grasp something. Once you have that, move on.
Something to keep in mind is that when you help folks really grasp certain ideas, they can use that new mental framework to learn more on their own. One idea leads to the next. But this only works when they really understand that first concept.
I know there is a lot of demand for a comprehensive approach to the Red Pill, especially for Christians. A comprehensive “guide” would be a huge boon, certainly. But not for new folks. Rather, it is most useful to those who are trying to guide others, as a resource to fall back on. Throwing a book at someone, when that book will challenge some really deeply held beliefs, is rarely a successful method of educating someone, or convincing them.
Take it easy when teaching. Slow and steady worked for the tortoise, and it can work for you too.