Pulling The Plug #2: Slow And Steady

My series on helping people “unplug” continues. Part 1 can be found here.

Today I want to talk about pacing. What I have noticed about myself is that I, at first, had a tendency to drop too much truth on folks at once. This was a mistake. Some things to keep in mind about helping people unplug:

  • The truth isn’t necessarily easy to understand- some concepts are rather complicated.
  • The truth isn’t necessarily easy to accept- getting someone to reevaluate their whole world-view is easier said than done.
  • There is a lot to process, and the more you throw at someone, the harder it is to process.

All of this leads to the simple conclusion that you should take the slow and steady approach when helping someone. Resist the urge to give them everything at once. Instead of bombarding them (which rarely works), pick one or two areas to focus on. Then keep at them, introducing them to more and more concepts over time. Eventually they will really grasp something. Once you have that, move on.

Something to keep in mind is that when you help folks really grasp certain ideas, they can use that new mental framework to learn more on their own. One idea leads to the next. But this only works when they really understand that first concept.

I know there is a lot of demand for a comprehensive approach to the Red Pill, especially for Christians. A comprehensive “guide” would be a huge boon, certainly. But not for new folks. Rather, it is most useful to those who are trying to guide others, as a resource to fall back on. Throwing a book at someone, when that book will challenge  some really deeply held beliefs, is rarely a successful method of educating someone, or convincing them.

Take it easy when teaching. Slow and steady worked for the tortoise, and it can work for you too.

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8 responses to “Pulling The Plug #2: Slow And Steady

  1. Pingback: Pulling The Plug #2: Slow And Steady – Manosphere.org

  2. Matthew 13 (KJV)

    18 Hear ye therefore the parable of the sower.

    19 When any one heareth the word of the kingdom, and understandeth it not, then cometh the wicked one, and catcheth away that which was sown in his heart. This is he which received seed by the way side.

    20 But he that received the seed into stony places, the same is he that heareth the word, and anon with joy receiveth it;

    21 Yet hath he not root in himself, but dureth for a while: for when tribulation or persecution ariseth because of the word, by and by he is offended.

    22 He also that received seed among the thorns is he that heareth the word; and the care of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, choke the word, and he becometh unfruitful.

    23 But he that received seed into the good ground is he that heareth the word, and understandeth it; which also beareth fruit, and bringeth forth, some an hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty.

    Am reminded of these verses after reading the two parts.

  3. Ame

    if you were to make a list of topics TRP covers, what would it be?

  4. Michael Kozaki

    I’m skeptical on this topic. Two reasons.

    First, there is little agreement on what is “plugged”. Accept it. It’s like saying “biblical”, which don’t mean sh*t, just makes people feel better.

    Second, never try to sell people with words. Waste. Of. Time. Just live a powerful witness. That’s so rare they will ask you. When they do, be blunt.

  5. Lost Patrol

    I think most of the guys involved with blogs for men have general agreement on the concept of “plugged”, although one does need some schooling to get the whole movie crossover theme. You could call it most anything but the central feature is that feminism has been the norm for so long that most people have grown comfortable living within it, even as it destroys society and the church. The ignorance that is not bliss.

    Living a powerful witness, such that people ask you about the difference, is undoubtedly max effective. But a lot of actions that would go along with living this witness might happen out of sight, or be too subtle or even invisible to a guy that’s still “plugged” into the FI. So I think there is room for words to lead a man out of more than one kind of darkness.

    Borrowing from St. Paul to the Romans:
    “How then will they call on Him in whom they have not believed? How will they believe in Him whom they have not heard? And how will they hear without a preacher? How will they preach unless they are sent?”

  6. Michael Kozaki

    LP,

    most involved with blogs for men have general agreement on the concept of “plugged”

    Yes, for the non-religious. But it’s just a feelgood term for religious men. Start asking hard questions about marriage, family, sex. You’ll see.

    Religious men divide into patriarchs, betas, and faux-religious. The only ones truly “unplugged”? Patriarchs. We know this because only they breed at statistical replacement. The rest? Historical footnotes, like MGTOW.

    In truth, most self-described “unplugged” religious bloggers don’t grasp how family, marriage, sex, and religious authority are indivisible. FI is their inevitable endgame, especially for their children.

  7. Michael Kozaki
    July 29, 2016 at 5:10 AM

    Religious men divide into patriarchs, betas, and faux-religious. The only ones truly “unplugged”? Patriarchs. We know this because only they breed at statistical replacement. The rest? Historical footnotes, like MGTOW.

    Michael if you compare your assessment of “religious men” against the fruitful men in the Parable of the Sower [top of this thread] Jesus said some bear fruit an hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty. You will notice Jesus has a different outcome.

    In truth, most self-described “unplugged” religious bloggers don’t grasp how family, marriage, sex, and religious authority are indivisible. FI is their inevitable endgame, especially for their children.

    Don’t be hasty to write-off a brother because you might think he isn’t patriarchal enough, talk to the guy and try to shed some light into him. Not everyone can be top dog, men must educate men and expose these truths. Gotta start somewhere.

  8. Lost Patrol

    DQ,

    “Gotta start somewhere.” That’s me.

    MK,
    I do take your points. “Plugged” has become a platitude, etc. It’s too easy see examples of what you describe.

    “Start asking hard questions about marriage, family, sex. You’ll see.”

    Have made some tentative steps – and have seen what you mean.

    “…don’t grasp how family, marriage, sex, and religious authority are indivisible. FI is their inevitable endgame, especially for their children.”

    Given that FI is in fact the currently observable state of affairs, I can’t argue with this either. I’m just not ready to throw in the towel. All I have is my personal testimony here, but I did and am climbing out of a hole. I’m not going to change the paradigm on any significant level but think I can make local improvements in my personal situation. In my case I am better positioned to help my sons see some things I was blind to at their ages, for one example.

    I have been assisted greatly in this by the blogs where men can exchange ideas. If I could find men with whom such things could be done face to face, all the better in my opinion. Might not happen. Could though, not impossible. We can steal from the SAS motto “Who Dares, Wins”. Demonstrably, some of those guys did not win, but gotta love the attitude.

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