An Abundance Of Concern

I would like to clarify something from my previous post: I am not advocating that men adopt an abundance mentality. Least of all Christian men.

Rather, I was trying to explain that there was a similarity between the “Abundance Mentality” and a mindset which doesn’t care about how women view you.

Deep Strength explores much of what is wrong with the Abundance Mentality, at least as it concerns Christians, here.

As a prescriptive matter, I think men need to do a couple of things. Here are just a few:

  • Stop caring what women think of you, especially women you might be interested in.
  • Look for women who will be a good fit for you.
  • Create an atmosphere of command (a concept worth exploring more later)
  • Build yourself up- physically, mentally, economically and spiritually

Feel free to disagree or add your own thoughts as you see fit.

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15 responses to “An Abundance Of Concern

  1. I’m not understanding what this “abundance mentality” phrase that people on the last Masculine Monday post were talking about even means. Is it a manospherian phrase that I’ve not come across before? :-/

  2. Abundance mentality as a mindset is a mixture of “There are a lot of fish in the sea + don’t put all your eggs in one basket.” That way you won’t get crushed if/when she tries to fit test you or if she turns you down.

  3. Taken in a negative direction it means never commit and never really expect life-long commitment.

  4. It’s mainly a mental calibration for players.

  5. Thank you for the explanation Patrick. That makes sense. 🙂

  6. A Visitor

    I can see how the two are related. My 2¢ would be don’t get one itis guys or girls if it doesn’t work out.

  7. Novaseeker

    I think that abundance mentality, strictly construed (as in, if one woman won’t sleep with you, move on, because you know there’s another who will) isn’t compatible with Christian morals. However, the broader idea is that you are valuable, you are attractive, and you are the prize, so you have many women to choose from. This is a position of confidence, and it can’t be faked (i.e., you know whether it is true or not, yourself, due to the IOIs and attention you get from women in general). That is not a bad position to be in. In and of itself it won’t find you a suitable Christian wife, because these are rare as DS points out in his post, but it will help you be more attractive to the women who would make a suitable Christian wife when you encounter her. Even very suitable Christian wife material women really appreciate that their man is attractive to other women (which is the entire basis of the abundance mentality).

  8. @ Nova

    That was my whole point.

    Looking for a good fit is all of those things. If a woman isn’t interested in you or doesn’t want to go on anymore dates then it’s cool. Obviously, she’s not a good fit in the long run. You want someone who has the right character and has the hots for you. Simply move on an don’t sweat it because she doesn’t fit the profile.

    That’s not to same that you shouldn’t be doing other things like learning how to be a head/leader, protector, provider, masculine, fit, etc.

  9. Novaseeker

    Right, but it works even better if she knows other women are attracted to you and sees it. That’s kind of the flipside of abundance mentality in the sense that there are multiple women attracted to you, and she knows that — it makes you more attractive, in addition to cultivating the underlying qualities. It kind of sums them up for her by seeing it reflected in other women’s attraction to you.

  10. Michael Kozaki

    Build yourself up- physically, mentally, economically and spiritually.

    Ha. Easy to say. Let’s put some metrics to it:
    Physical: 25 pull-ups, 50 push or sit ups, run 25 mi; whole food only.
    Mental: Tailor all clothing, no TV/vids, good posture.
    Economic: Work 12 hrs daily (4 for self), saving money.
    Spirit: Weekly: mass, Eucharist, tithe, charity, fasting. Strong beliefs.

    Anyone who actually does this? He has an Abundance Mentality. For everything: friends, money, women. Not as a silly mental trick. Because it’s true. Some things are obvious. And yes, even for women.

  11. @ Nova

    Right, but it works even better if she knows other women are attracted to you and sees it. That’s kind of the flipside of abundance mentality in the sense that there are multiple women attracted to you, and she knows that — it makes you more attractive, in addition to cultivating the underlying qualities. It kind of sums them up for her by seeing it reflected in other women’s attraction to you.

    Agreed, but that enters in the realm of the other things you should be doing to become a man. Searching is only a small component honestly, and if you’re becoming more attractive it will get better over time because the pool will actually widen up some.

  12. anonymous_ng

    @DG – “Stop caring what women think of you, especially women you might be interested in.”

    To me, this is the single most damning attitude amongst men in this modern age. Why should the opinion of some young woman who’s done nothing more than smoke enough cigarettes, and snort enough cocaine to look great in a mini-skirt matter to you?

    However, I figure that it takes a bunch of uncommon maturity of identity to arrive at that place where your opinion of yourself trumps the opinion of other people.

  13. MK,
    Can you do 25 pull-ups all at once. If so, I’m impressed. The best I’ve done is 14. 50 push-ups is not hard to get to.

  14. Michael Kozaki

    Patrick, yes, but.to be clear I was only describing being in shape. A marathon today would kill me. I used to work out with a guy 25 pull-ups while I gaped. That’s in upper-body shape.

    My point: the bar for men willing to marry today is very low & falling. American, fit, and tailored? <1%. He better enjoy his freedom while he can.

  15. Michael Kozaki

    Opps, that’s 25 pull-ups with 90# strapped on his waist. Typing too fast.

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