A common theme will be quickly noted in the following passages. I’ve highlighted most, if not all of them, before, and for good reason. They are all of great value. I will explain why I chose them again at the end of the post.
10 When he entered Media and already was approaching Ecbatana, 11 Raphael said to the young man, “Brother Tobias.” “Here I am,” he answered. Then Raphael said to him, “We must stay this night in the home of Raguel. He is your relative, and he has a daughter named Sarah. 12 He has no male heir and no daughter except Sarah only, and you, as next of kin to her, have before all other men a hereditary claim on her. Also it is right for you to inherit her father’s possessions. Moreover, the girl is sensible, brave, and very beautiful, and her father is a good man.”
The wise woman builds her house,
but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.
She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
Do not deprive yourself of a wise and good wife,
for her charm is worth more than gold.
23 A friend or companion is always welcome,
but a sensible wife is better than either.
I had the occasion recently to run across a woman I hadn’t seen in quite a while. She wasn’t really a friend, more of an acquaintance. The last I had seen of her, she had been quite taken with a man who I knew was trouble. He was a former “bad boy” who had supposedly turned his life around. Only I didn’t believe that he had. I had tried to explain this to her, but to no avail. As many of you would guess, she made excuses about his behavior. She refused to accept that my read of him was accurate. There was no reasoning with her.
And that is where the selection of today’s verses comes in. Wisdom, or sensibility, is one of the most valuable traits a woman can have. In fact I would go so far as to say it is essential. This young woman lacked sense. I don’t know how else to describe it. She wasn’t at all wise.
Devout Pious? Most certainly. Haven’t met many women who [seemed to take]/took their faith more seriously. But she wasn’t sensible and it showed. She was good looking, unusually feminine for a western woman, and devout pious. But without wisdom she was doomed to make a mess of her life.
And that is exactly what she did. Just as I had predicted, the man she had been interested in had used her and hurt her. She was a mess, and on a lot of different levels. The word “Alpha Widow” comes to mind. Sadly, she was finally starting to get some sense, as she was able to realize just how messed up she was. But at the same time she couldn’t admit that she was responsible for her troubles. Even though I and some of her friends and family had pointed out exactly what would happen, she still refused to acknowledge that this could have been avoided. “It could happen to anyone” was her line.
All of this goes to show the value of sense in a woman. Devotion is a wonderful thing, but a woman without wisdom will most assuredly tear down her house. I’ve seen it before, and sadly I suspect I will see it again. So my advice to men: look for a sensible woman. From my experience, it is easier for a sensible woman to grow in faith, than it is for a devout woman to grow sense. Something to keep in mind.
[Update: See the comments below for more- I played somewhat fast and loose with what I said in the post.]