This short post is meant to act as a clarification of my post Sympathy for a Stranger. I was surprised by the reaction to that post, greatly surprised even. It generated a lot of what can only be called hostility. Several different people communicated to me in different channels their thoughts, and helped clarify matters (somewhat). Interestingly enough (to me at least), the hostility seemed to be based on two things: the first was a perception that I had been judging a woman I didn’t know, and the second was a perception that I was defending my actions.
Let me clarify- the first perception is correct. I had been judging that woman. I thought that my post made that abundantly clear. Why it was worth arguing over whether I had or not seemed a waste of time to me. However, the second perception was incorrect. I was by no means attempting to defend my actions. I was wrong, and I thought, when I wrote that post, that if I didn’t state it outright it was at least implied.
However, people read me otherwise. As for who those people were… I found it noteworthy that at least a few of my male readers understood what I was doing: I was admitting fault in a display of sympathy and was asking other men if they had done the same thing. My female readers, on the other hand, largely didn’t seem to understand what I was trying to convey. This only goes to show how delicate communication between the sexes can be. It is terribly easy for us to misunderstand one another, and that post was evidence of that. One of the subjects that this blog covers is miscommunication between men and women, so expect some follow up there.
That post was also evidence of something else, only I haven’t quite settled on what that is. As I indicated before, I have some suspicions, but I think I will run them by a few others first, before committing a post to the subject. If any of my commenters have thoughts of their own, this post is a proper place to voice them.
Also, as an aside, I am considering taking the month of July off from blogging. While I may offer the occasional comment or two, my plan is not to post at all. That may change, but I wanted to give folks a heads up for why they may not hear from me for a while.