The question being, of course, the subject of a previous post: Should a Single Woman Know Where She Ranks on the “1-10 Scale”?
After thinking it over further, and reading what others have said on the subject, I have come to the conclusion that a woman shouldn’t try and find out her number on the scale. Here are some of the reasons why she shouldn’t try:
1) The scale is highly subjective. Once I talked with several women who had investigated their “number” on the scale, I quickly realized how subjective it was. Men really do have a wide variety of tastes and preferences when it comes to women, and this impacts the scale tremendously. It really requires a large sample of men whose answers you average together to get an accurate picture. And even then, that is an average. You have no guarantee that a man whom you are trying to attract will see you as a “7”, even though that is what your average is. This difficulty is also compounded by the fact that many men will let biases about desirability impact their answers. They will let preferences for non-attraction features of a woman (her dress, for example, or some part of her personality) get in the way of their analysis.
2) Many women won’t use this knowledge in a helpful manner. Or, as Cane Caldo puts it:
Women are crazy.
Sadly, they will not use this information to tailor their efforts to marry towards a man around their value. Instead, you will get something like this:
Wherever you go, if the threads of conversation veer into the importance of the 1-10 scale, the women start throwing out their numbers, bolstering each other, etc. I’m speaking of Christian, married, and ostensibly sane women. (And perhaps they are; with passing moments of madness.) You can’t stop them from wanting to know; from trying to dictate; from competing with each other, and trying to make sure no one gets too far ahead of the fold. They’ll protest that they don’t mean to be competitive. As the saying goes: “Numbers don’t lie”, and self-referentially invoking the 1-10 scale is nothing but numbers. So what we see here is that, untrained, women are short sighted, vain, and envious; which looks a lot like cruelty.
The “1-10 scale” is a male invention, and serves male needs. Dare I say it, perhaps it should stay in the hands of men. Women are not apt to use it as they should, and would in fact be better off not having it at all.
3) Knowing her “number” doesn’t actually do a woman much good. For example, it doesn’t help her identify men in her SMP/MMP range, because discerning male SMP/MMP is very difficult. So even if she knows she is a “6”, she won’t necessarily be able to identify which men are “6s” that she should pay attention to. Even if it did, if she were to ignore men above her in value, she would risk missing the attentions of one who does find her worth marrying.
4) There is always the danger of receiving bad information. A woman who has an inaccurate assessment of her SMV is in far worse of a position than a woman who has not idea at all.
5) Lastly, there are more important matters that women can focus on if they want to marry. The most critical is to bump up her MMV. Worrying over attractiveness accomplishes little for a woman. Unless she is unfit and/or overweight, there is actually little she can do to change her attractiveness. Elspeth put it bluntly:
Women should endeavor to be useful rather than just pretty. Do your best and leave it at that.
What Elsepth is talking about here is desirability. She is advising women to focus on those traits they have the most control over, and which are critical in convincing a man that you are worth investing in. Looks fade over time, even the densest man knows that. They get our initial attention, but it is your personality and skill-set that makes you worth keeping around. Invest your time and efforts there, and the dividends will be great.
In closing, I leave you with these lovely words courtesy of Embrace your femininity:
Physical beauty is not enough to make you a beautiful person, the heart must also be beautiful so that your beauty radiates from within, in our thoughts and deeds. So I have thought about whether women need to know their “number”, and as for myself, of course there is a curiosity. But I have decided that no, I don’t absolutely need to know. Because our physical attractiveness is just one part of us, it is what will attract a man, but it will not necessarily keep a good man. And why does it matter that every man think we are beautiful? When we think on it a little deeper, we come to realize that it’s only really important that one man find us beautiful.
Ladies, don’t worry about your “number.” Instead, strive to make yourself the most feminine and lovable woman possible.