I was contacted recently by a female reader who sought my advice in the face of some difficult decisions that she needed to make in the near future. Having provided her with my thoughts on the matter, I asked for and received permission to create a blog post as a result of our conversation. It is my belief that the questions she had and the challenges she faces are not unique, and that my advice would work well for other young women in a similar position. Now that the background is taken care of, on to the post…
The young lady in question, whom I shall refer to as Jane for the purpose of this post, is a recent college graduate who is currently deciding if she should attend graduate school. She contacted me to see what my thoughts were on the subject. Jane was primarily concerned with how attending graduate school would impact her efforts to marry. Before I explain my answer, a bit of background on her situation:
-Jane is a Christian woman in her early twenties.
-Jane discovered the “Red Pill” around six months or so, give or take.
-Jane wants to marry and have children, and the sooner the better.
-Thanks to her experience with the “Red Pill”, she is aware that prioritizing education and a career can hurt her marriage prospects.
-Jane aims is to marry a devout Christian man that is also “Red Pill” aware.
-The doctorate program that she would attend would take 4+ years to complete, and while not STEM, is not a “fluff” degree.
-The program is also very time intensive and overall is very demanding, which would leave her with little to no time to spend outside of school.
-Thanks to scholarships and fellowships, she would probably not have to incur any debt to enter the program; indeed she might be able to make a little money.
-In terms of job offers, the doctorate would open a few more doors, but would mostly translate into a larger salary for a future job.
-Jane has accumulated very little debt and has a low cost of living at the moment.
With that out of the way, here is a summary of the advice I offered:
Given the nature of the graduate school program, with a four year plus duration and intensive time requirements, I cannot recommend that Jane enter the program. According to conventional wisdom, which is encapsulated in Rollo’s SMV chart, Jane is near the apex of her SMV value. While every woman’s situation is unique, I think Rollo’s graphic provides a fairly accurate representation of average SMV changes over time. Which means that by the time Jane leaves the doctorate program, her SMV will have already peaked and she will have begun the steady fall towards The Wall. Now is the best time for Jane to marry, when her SMV and MMV are at the highest they will ever be.
I advised Jane that unless she could count on finding her husband inside the grad school, attending the program would cripple her chances to find a masculine, God-fearing man. As I explained to her:
You may need to devote a goodly amount of time to finding a husband, with potentially odd hours about it. One week you might not need to do anything related to that quest, while the next you might need to visit several nearby towns or even go to another state to interview/meet a prospective husband.
Given how messed up our current system is right now, it could take years to find an appropriate candidate. Jane cannot afford to lose 4 years of her youth, beauty and fertility on something that ultimately isn’t as meaningful to her as finding a good husband to raise a family with.
She also expressed some concern about what would happen if she couldn’t find a husband. I advised her that she can always continue her education later, it is some that she can put off. But she cannot put off having children. Far and away too many women follow that path of delaying marriage and children in order to pursue an education and career, only to discover their fertility has failed in the meantime.
I am curious if my readers agree with the advice that I have given to Jane, or feel that it is incomplete. So I ask you to chime in with your advice to Jane on how she should prepare for her future. Also, because of this conversation and a comment left over at Cane Caldo’s site [Warning: Crass language/topics in OP], I have been thinking of writing a post containing advice for young Christian women who are looking for a “Red Pill” Christian man. So if anyone has any advice to offer on that front, feel free to leave it here as well.