This post’s title is somewhat tongue in cheek, as I rather doubt that I will be offering “Girl Game” tips in the future. For those looking for such advice, Girls Being Girls is your best bet. But I was inspired to write about the subject by some recent events in my life, as well as reading someone relate a story where she received some truly awful “Girl Game” advice, which thankfully was not followed. Before I get into the advice, I will relate two brief stories about girls I met recently.
Last week I attended an evening Mass at my local church (many Catholic churches will hold services, which we call Mass, during the week), something which I hadn’t done for a long time. When I arrived at church I noticed a young woman, perhaps mid-twenties, sitting in one of the pews. My seat didn’t provide me much of an opportunity to get a good look at her, but she seemed pretty enough at first glance, not to mention thin. Her clothing appeared fairly modest as well, which, coupled with her body language, made her seem somewhat demure. I didn’t recognize her, as I hadn’t seen her at any of the normal masses at my church before. Naturally all this intrigued me, and I wished that I had an opportunity to speak with her before Mass. During the service I was struck by her voice, which had a sweetness and clarity to it that I found thoroughly enjoyable. While I was still concentrating on the Mass (something I became quite skilled at years before thanks to the Sunday Morning Nightclub), I resolved to speak with her afterward. While I couldn’t be sure, I wasn’t able to observe any rings on her fingers, so I guessed that she was unmarried. Unfortunately, as soon as Mass ended I saw her leave quickly and rush out of church, before I even had a chance to leave my pew.
A few days later I was at Saturday vigil Mass (seriously, there is no making an excuse about not being able to attend Church as a Catholic), which is the usual service that I attend. I was already seated, and Mass was about to begin, when I observed a young woman sit several rows ahead of me. She appeared to be of Hispanic descent, and was either very early twenties or late teens. She was clearly pretty and had a feminine figure as well. Like the previous girl, I had never seen her before at Church, which made me wonder if she normally attended one of the Spanish language Masses. Interestingly enough, I thought that she might have been giving off some IOIs during Mass (which was rather distracting, actually) by playing around with her hair, which was a long and lustrous black. Furthermore, she also sat in her pew in such a way so that she didn’t face straight forward, but instead facing somewhat sideways, which meant that she could see me out of the corner of her eye. The thought of not speaking with her after Mass never entered my mind. But this time, Mass wasn’t even fully over before the young woman left her pew and hastily exited church.
Now, it is likely that both young ladies had somewhere to go after Church. Perhaps even something important. And it is also possible that neither was “single” in the sense of not having a man in her life. And of course, one could question if Church is the proper place to make an approach (but if not Church, then where? Especially if you are looking for a devout spouse). Whatever the situation, neither girl made herself available for an approach.
And this is the crux of the matter. If a good, high-value woman wants to be approached by men, she needs to make herself available. Rushing about from place to place makes this next to impossible. If you have time, linger for a few minutes. Give any men who might be interested the opportunity to evaluate you and decide to make an approach. You can help them by moving somewhat away from any other action going on, to give a slight amount of privacy between the two of you. Men can feel somewhat vulnerable during an approach, so we feel less pressured when it is just us and the woman in the vicinity. Also, it is essential to maintain a pleasant or even cheerful demeanor if you can manage it. This makes it much more likely that a man will approach you. Men are drawn to cheerful women, and are repulsed by angry or unpleasant ones.
So, to summarize:
Girl Game Tip #1: Be Available
1) Let yourself linger for a few minutes to give me a chance to approach
2) Place yourself in a somewhat private place
3) Display a pleasant or cheerful attitude
Thus endeth the lesson.
Update 1: Girl #2 wasn’t present at the vigil Mass yesterday. Something tells me that I will probably never see her again.